I often get comments from people on some of the ingredients in my recipes. “How can you use this _____?” “You should use this _____” ” I will no longer promote you, you used ____ in this recipe.”
Some don’t want sugar, others don’t want a slew of other ingredients. The fact of the matter is that there are so many diets out there.
I decided to share my views on diets in one blog post.
My Views on Diets
While I don’t personally have an issue with anyone eating a particular way, I do have an issue with those who are militant in their views and try to make converts of those around them.
I have yet to encounter a single exchange on the internet – or in the person – where name calling, accusations, shaming, and/or pointing out the “errors” of someone’s ways made anyone say: “Gee, thanks for butting into my business, I see it your way now” or “thanks for calling me an ignorant moron, I see the errors of my ways.”
The fact of the matter is that the sayings: “don’t show me what you know show me how you care” or “be the change you want to see in the world” are true and wise. People don’t give a darn about your (you can put mine there too) opinions unless they know you love them and care.
Are there foods I will not eat?
Do I believe my views and my data to be “right”?
Of course I do. If I believed my views to be wrong I would neither hold nor share them. The same goes for most everyone.
Have I always been right?
Have my views ever changed over time?
Yes (thank goodness).
Life Is a Journey
I am staring my fifth decade of life in the face and I thank God to have grown, changed, and matured. Life circumstances have shaped me. While some of my beliefs have remained the same, others have evolved or gone by the wayside altogether.
To be honest, I worry about people who never change.
I’ve learned to keep my mouth shut unless directly asked for my opinion because I discovered early in life, the sun did not revolve around me (who knew) and that not everyone cared to know my point of view (although they should…just kidding) unless they knew I truly cared about them first and asked.
I have recipes on this site I no longer make or I modify them when I do. Why? Because I am ever learning, ever growing, and ever changing.
I am aware than others are on their own journey, with their own external and internal struggles, and I was not put on this earth to be “Messiah” to anyone. I have my path to follow. My job is to keep my eyes on my journey (and that keeps me plenty busy thank you very much) and trust that others do the same even if their journey makes no sense to me.
Do I have less than kind thoughts about some of the choices others make?
Sometimes. Not something I am proud of. I am a work in progress and I have yet to attain perfection (and honestly do not expect to on this side of heaven). I am a beautiful mess called a human.
My Views on Diets: The “Science” of Nutrition
The science of nutrition is its infancy (it was birthed in the 19th century). It is relatively a new science which changes all the time. The variables are many.
I believe as our fingerprints are unique to us, so is our biochemistry, thought life, childhood, etc. We are unique and they are (or should be) as many diets as they are people.
Yes, some diets work, especially for the creators of such diets and some (not all) of their followers.
Can we all agree some foods are bad?
Yet, some have the right to eat them and to make that choice for themselves. It is called freedom, something we all love.
I also believe that much more destructive than any one food (or food group), negatives thoughts, negative words, and people who do not mind what is none of their concerns are much more toxic.
I am of the belief that if someone has so much time on his/her hands as to be able to make the life of others miserable, become others’ conscience, or self-appointed diet guru, then they should volunteer.
Going to a soup kitchen, becoming a big brother or big sister, starting a community garden, giving to others are wonderful way to spend one’s extra energy. One will have less time to complain and will actually feel good about making a positive difference in the world.
My Views on Diets: In Conclusion
You want to be vegan?
Great, go for it!
Vegetarian? Paleo? Keto? Pescatarian? Gaps? Soy-free? Whatever…
Embrace it, live it, love it….and leave others alone to find their own way.
If you are asked, then share and teach rather than condemn.
So yes, some of my recipes use less than stellar ingredients. If you really don’t want to use one ingredient, there is often a substitute which will work for your purpose and I do try to include them in the recipes.
I don’t even believe it is my job to tell my hubby, my friends, my family, what to eat or not to eat. Even my teens, there are foods I do not buy. However, by the time they are almost into adulthood, if my life has not spoken for itself, then it is a tad late to make an impression. My kids know my views and my beliefs. I respect them enough to let them make choices, yes, even poor ones because humans are mess-makers and I don’t think it will change any time soon.
You know the old saying: “you attract more flies with honey than vinegar?” Grace is the honey. Criticism and unkindness the vinegar.
Live fully, enjoy and embrace your life. None of us are guaranteed a tomorrow and while you are at it, spread kindness wherever your go!
My views on diets? People grow best on a daily dose of love and kindness. This is my ultimate diet.